As far as I can remember I have always had friends. It never really seemed hard for me to make friends. My dad was in the military by the time I was born & being a "military brat" I always had a variety of friends. Variety meaning they were either male, female, of a different ethnicity, from different countries, different states and/or different lifestyles. I can remember as a child that it was pretty "easy" to make friends and I'm assuming that it was probably due to the innocence of being a child. Friendship came so easily as a child.
The principal of friendship is found in Amos 3:3, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" There has to be some commonality between those individuals. Hopefully the common core is spiritual as well as having goals, morals and values. No you're not going to agree on everything but you will have to have something or someone to hold you together. Hopefully it's your faith and like mindedness. People that will encourage, motivate and challenge you to be your best self.
As I have gotten older, I realize that friends come and they go just as easily. Sometimes their going is not as easy or understandable as I would like for it to be, but it's necessary. I can admit that I don't have as many friends as I did when I was in middle and high school or when I was in college. I can probably count on my hands the amount of friends I have but it's not going pass that. I have my moments when I feel that I should be hanging out with friends and enjoying their company overall. Then I have to wonder if having them around is really genuine or am I just trying to fill a void?
Friendships shouldn't be forced, they shouldn't be one sided and they shouldn't be stressful. Friends love sacrificially (John 15:13), they accept unconditionally (Proverbs 17:17), trust completely (Proverbs 18:24), keep healthy boundaries (I Corinthians 13:4) and give mutual edification (Proverbs 27:6) (An excerpt from christianity.about.com). If you have to put in a lot of work for a friendship then me personally, I don't think it's really worth it.
The greatest joy that I have is knowing that my Heavenly Father calls me friend (John 15:15). The best thing about our friendship is, I didn't have to put up a front with Him, I didn't have to be somebody I'm not nor did I have to beg Him. He accepts me for who I am and helps me to become who He wants me to be. That's the best friendship that I have, hopefully it's your best friendship too.
My question to you is - Friends, how many of us have them? Do you appreciate your friends, do you use them, do you trust them, do you even like your friends? Remember you are all individuals and once you know and respect that, all your friendships can be a wonderful thing.
The principal of friendship is found in Amos 3:3, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" There has to be some commonality between those individuals. Hopefully the common core is spiritual as well as having goals, morals and values. No you're not going to agree on everything but you will have to have something or someone to hold you together. Hopefully it's your faith and like mindedness. People that will encourage, motivate and challenge you to be your best self.
As I have gotten older, I realize that friends come and they go just as easily. Sometimes their going is not as easy or understandable as I would like for it to be, but it's necessary. I can admit that I don't have as many friends as I did when I was in middle and high school or when I was in college. I can probably count on my hands the amount of friends I have but it's not going pass that. I have my moments when I feel that I should be hanging out with friends and enjoying their company overall. Then I have to wonder if having them around is really genuine or am I just trying to fill a void?
Friendships shouldn't be forced, they shouldn't be one sided and they shouldn't be stressful. Friends love sacrificially (John 15:13), they accept unconditionally (Proverbs 17:17), trust completely (Proverbs 18:24), keep healthy boundaries (I Corinthians 13:4) and give mutual edification (Proverbs 27:6) (An excerpt from christianity.about.com). If you have to put in a lot of work for a friendship then me personally, I don't think it's really worth it.
The greatest joy that I have is knowing that my Heavenly Father calls me friend (John 15:15). The best thing about our friendship is, I didn't have to put up a front with Him, I didn't have to be somebody I'm not nor did I have to beg Him. He accepts me for who I am and helps me to become who He wants me to be. That's the best friendship that I have, hopefully it's your best friendship too.
My question to you is - Friends, how many of us have them? Do you appreciate your friends, do you use them, do you trust them, do you even like your friends? Remember you are all individuals and once you know and respect that, all your friendships can be a wonderful thing.
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